I'm not sure where it all started. It could have been when I went to see Avengers and wanted Blair to wear a blonde wig and wield a hammer. Or it could have been when I went to see Spiderman and asked Blair is he could jump up on the roof and pull the weeds out of the gutter. But, there's no doubt about it. I've got a thing for super heroes!
As I was lying in bed the other night, with visions of spandex dancing through my mind, I realized two things:
First, I'm way too preoccupied with super heroes.
Second, setting our standards at a super hero level is a good thing. No, it's a great thing! Especially when it comes to our daughters. When it comes to dating (for lack of a better word), we have taught our children that during that time it's not about trying on different people to see if they fit. It's all about being patient, building your character, and waiting on God to supply that one person that He has prepared for you, and only for you.
My daughter, Katie, has inherited my fascination with super heroes. She sent me this picture when she and her sister, Kelsey, went on a "sister date" to the book store. (Wow! Did I just sound like a totally geeked-out homeschool mom, or what? Not only did they go on a "sister date" but they went to the bookstore!). She and her sister are holding out for their heroes. Their standards are exceptionally high, right where they should be.
So, why super heroes? Four reasons.
Super Heroes are humble. In a culture where everyone seems to want to do the least possible to get the most credit. Everything seems to be motivated by ego. It all comes down to how many friends you have on Facebook and how many pictures you're tagged in (as long as they make you look good). Super heroes aren't out for the glory. They're out for the good. They do what they do because it's the right thing, not because they will get their egos pumped up. They even put on a mask so they don't get recognized (or maybe it's because their good looks will be too darn distracting for average citizens).
Super Heroes go beyond. Today, most people do the bare minimum to scrape by. It seems as if our culture is suffering from a plague of mediocrity. People are satisfied living in ruts instead of breaking out and going beyond. Not so with super heroes. They push through obstacles. They see problems as challenges instead of limits. And when the going gets tough, they get tougher.
Super Heroes protect. They constantly put their lives on the line in order to protect others. They no only see it as their duty, but their honor to serve and protect. And when my daughter meets her super hero, he will hold her heart with care and compassion and do whatever he needs to do in order to protect her--even if it means putting aside his personal desires in order to protect her emotions.
Super Heroes are honorable. We live in a world where morals are slippery slopes; and standards are dependent upon whatever circumstances you find yourself in. That's not true with super heroes. They know that right is right and wrong is wrong, and they will fight to defend that belief. Integrity is everything. They live with it constantly, even when the mask comes off and you see the real person underneath.
So, yeah. My daughters are holding out for their heroes. And shouldn't they? Why sell out when you can wait and have the very best? I know that one day, their super heroes will come forward and there will be a love story that beats any Marvel movie any day of the week.
Keep holding out, girls.
He's out there...somewhere.